What to do for merisik

**panic stricken family members exist. they came for the sole purpose to also make you panic**

things that I should prepare on a Merisik Event.

1. FOOD (like any other occasion)
2. LIST of the things your side is asking for in your wedding.

Merisik tend to be small and so there is no need to worry. However if you know me...My family is gigantic...'A' family was only four but I managed to call more than 20 hahahaha. so I cooked 3 chickens and mee goreng. My sis bought satay and food looks good. The others bought other things. It was a very memorable night. which ends with having to send my dad (for gout) to the hospital... hahahahaha.

we had so many people that we had to put this boy here :D

The out lay of the list

PERMINTAAN DARIPADA PIHAK PENGANTIN PEREMPUAN

Bagi

(the full name of the bride)

Pembuka mulut             :      $      100.00 dan sebentuk cincin

Tanda bertunang           :      $      100.00 dan Sebentuk cincin

Mas Kahwin                 :      $  in hundereds   (up to u)

Belanja Serbaguna        :      $ in thousands  (up to u)

Kain Jong Sarat

Daripada:

(the Bride's address)

Day, night

date in Hijrah,

date in usual calender 

This list I did not prepare early. One of my sister in law (OMSiL) was a secretary. she was being particular about the production of this list. She creates this template and so I'm sharing it with you. OMSiL is such a perfectionist that even when she wanted to fold the paper into an envelop she hesitated and we had to print the paper 3 times...eventually I fold it and put it in. 

The many events of Brunei wedding

I will start these series of info with the main steps in a traditional wedding

1. Merisik- Asking for the woman intended's avalability
2. Bertunang- groom asking for a wedding proposal, a promise to be married
3. Menghantar Mas kahwin and akad Nikah
4.Ambil-ambilan
5.balik 3 hari

The proposal

In a Brunei wedding, you are engage only when you have the grooms family over to seek for a proposal for you. But in the Modern Brunei wedding proposal can be anytime anywhere...and so my story continues with

20.10.2010

'A'  was nervous about our date. It was 10 days after he proposed to me to be his Girlfriend. The night before this date...he asked me... (i don't remember the exact words) whether I would marry him. I said- I will answer when the time comes. hehehe

so on the 20th of October 2010. Him coming back form work, we went to Empire hotel beach. At the end of the beach there are two seats for couples. we sat on one of them. facing the sea and infront of it was a big small island of rock. There he held my right hand and got down on one knee. He pulled out a ring. And ask me the basic words that I have never heard ever before given to me
"would you marry me?" I was surprised, heart beats faster. I couldn't say anything. "would you promise to be mine forever"
as he bend down. i looked into his eyes and said

"yes, i will marry you". when u meet someone you know loves you and you have learned to love him back...there is no reason to hold back

and so the wedding plans continue

This story was originally written 25/2/2011.

The time for Boyfriend and serious relationship

I have never tried any serious relationship before. on the 10.10.2010. The guy- I met a year a go bluntly told off- is asking me to go on a date especially for the special date. It was a morning date...I woke up around 6 and we drove to Berakas Beach. It was my first beach walk with him. The morning was cool and we walked until we can manage.

My friend then was holding my hand. It felt comfortable. It felt like I have reached home.
we continue our day with breakfast and then to Atirah. where he said he wanted to get something. i waited in the car. I waited. until he came back with roses. 3 to symbolized I LOVE U.

He said- would u be mine
i said- i am already yours.
that Day I smelled my roses all the way to empire where we watched Repo man. It wasn't a romantic movie but i enjoyed it just the same. all that time i worried that my rose would wilt in his car. but when i came back it didn't

That day I asked him- what am I to him?
He said- Girlfriend
I smiled.
If u asked me did my heart beat faster? that would be in the next story